We will hear and say ‘Happy New Year’ frequently currently of year – but rarely do we consider what it really means to us, and the men and women to whom we say it.
Many of us are unique people with our personal unique needs and desires; and many of us are united inside our quest for the very same thing – to feel Happy New Year 2020. We are all striving with this state of ‘happiness’; but many people are looking in the wrong spot for it – and settling for any temporary mood-enhancer in the form of alcohol, drugs, a brand new relationship, or new possessions.
Magazines are actually packed with ‘New Year New You’ advice from so-called experts – almost all of that is just plain good sense! No one is definitely the expert on you! Only you know – or want to pin-down – what brings you personal happiness. One person’s happiness is another person’s burden.
Should you now take into consideration what actually brings people happiness it might range from finding shelter and food; to getting a make-over/fake-tan/fake-nails etc., buying new ‘toys/gadgets’, right right through to showing love, care and compassion to others. As broad a spectrum as it is observed in general society.
Happiness for you personally will be based upon your personal amount of personal and spiritual awareness, as well as your ability to create happiness as being a state of mind that you simply can come back to anytime – despite life’s relentless disappointments and challenges.
It is not enough to merely ‘think’ or ‘imagine’ yourself to be happy – you can’t fool yourself that easily!
What most of us don’t realise is the fact we have two mind-sets about everything in our life, and those two minds can be at odds with the other person. This conflict can are the levels of happiness our company is ‘allowed’ to experience.
Our conscious/rational/observing mind can desire and seek greater happiness; but if our sub-conscious mind doesn’t feel that we deserve it, or that people would benefit from it – it just isn’t planning to come our way. Our outer lives are merely ever a reflection in our inner and deeper sub-conscious belief system. Self-help books and talking therapies usually do not access or change these deeper ‘Script’ beliefs.
Being around happy, optimistic, warm and friendly people positively affects us too – as does the contrary. This is called ‘Emotional Contagion’ – which is worth reflecting upon what ‘mood’ or ‘energy’ we ourselves hand out that subsequently affects those around us.
We have neurons within our brains called Mirror Neurons which can create in us the emotion that people are witnessing outside us. As an example if we see someone stub their toe or trap their finger, we are instinctively programmed to feel something similar. This connection goes beyond mere ’empathy’, or of recalling personal memories of similar things having happened to us previously. Our company is significantly impacted by being around Merry Christmas Messages, whose emotions we then ‘mirror’ in ourselves.
Don’t however be fooled by way of a ‘happy mask’ that somebody may wear; that will be a false-self they present around the world as being an attempt to hide their real feelings and desires. This may well happen to be set up in childhood when it was encouraged and expected that they ‘put-on-a-happy face’ for the family’s sake; and also to stuff down their real feelings such as anger, resentment, disappointment, fear, sadness and despair – that was real, but ‘unacceptable’ by the family/care-giver.
So many people are so familiar with wearing a mask they cannot imagine an existence without it, or how to take it away! Their eyes will often provide the game away as to their underlying feelings, as will an unguarded moment and comment, if someone else is sensitive enough to observe these ‘slips’.
All of us have a ‘base-line’ level of happiness at any given stage inside our lives – which can be formed from our past experiences and also the meaning we gave in their mind; and naturally the consequences these have experienced upon our sub-conscious mind and also the ‘program’ our company is running.
This base-line represents only 40% in the full level of happiness we are designed for experiencing on the present time. A further 10% can range from external ‘lucky’ events including the lottery win; or perhaps a big new purchase; or kkywim cosmetic surgery etc. These ‘highs’ are unfortunately only temporary so we soon go back to our base level once more.
The very fantastic news though is the fact that remaining 40% of happiness available to you – comes from YOU! This can be scientifically validated and forms a central aspect of Positive Psychology.
You will find 12 means of facilitating more happiness by your own actions and thoughts, and also by the releasing your very own blockages. Many of these ways include learning how to establish a more optimistic and focused strategy to life; to keep up your healthy mind and spirit, and allowing gratitude and forgiveness to you. These sound simple however are profound and life-changing. Boosting your overall, and sustained, happiness positively effects every cell within your body and consequently your genetic expression (Epi-genetics); and for that reason your lifespan.
Deeper and sustained Happiness equates to some calmness from the mind… observing what is, rather than forcing change… reflecting, surrendering and allowing; instead of worrying, over-thinking and mind-chatter. To see the Happy New Year Messages in every single tiny moment as opposed to only focusing in front of the present time; or dwelling in the unchangeable past. The sole time you actually have is this moment and the next breath. Make the most of these whilst you still need them.